Field notes
Notes on dating fatigue, the economics of the swipe, and what changes when an agent does the looking.
October 12, 2026
Pew Research's dating app data shows a sharp gender gap in harassment reports. A deep dive into what was measured, what it means, and what changes the exposure.
Read →October 11, 2026
An ai dating assistant, a swipe app, and a human matchmaker fit into a real week very differently. A schedule-first comparison on cost, time, and privacy.
Read →October 10, 2026
Dating app profile optimization promises better matches if you just get the photos and bio right. Here's what the evidence actually says about where the bottleneck lives.
Read →October 9, 2026
Slow dating, defined plainly: what the term means, how it differs from intentional dating, where the research backs it up, and who it actually suits.
Read →October 8, 2026
Applying to an exclusive dating app? Here's a concrete checklist — what to prepare, what vetting actually checks, and how to not waste the wait.
Read →October 7, 2026
Searching for alternatives to dating apps but skeptical they're any better? Six common objections, checked against real research, Match Group filings, and the data.
Read →October 6, 2026
An ai matchmaking-relevant deep dive into Match Group's quarterly payer and churn disclosures — what the numbers actually track, and what they don't prove.
Read →October 5, 2026
Voice-first apps, text-based matchmaking, and meeting in person each cost you differently in time, privacy, and money. Here's the comparison, dimension by dimension.
Read →October 4, 2026
"Just keep swiping" sounds like free advice. The evidence on choice, attention, and app incentives says the opposite — more swiping is the myth, not the fix.
Read →October 3, 2026
A selective dating app, explained plainly: what the vetting actually filters, how it differs from invite-only or exclusive, and who it genuinely suits.
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